If I bring an expensive bottle of wine to dinner, do I have to share it?

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Dear Dr. Vinny,

I often bring my own (expensive) wine to dinner at restaurants and pay the corkage fee if applicable. My wife thinks that when we're dining with others, we're obligated to share the wine we brought, but I disagree. What does the doctor say?

—Brett, Winter Garden, Fla.

Dear Brett,

I’m siding with your wife. Sharing is a central part of social interaction. By not sharing, there’s really no way around the rudeness of the message you are sending, which is that your friends are not worth the price of the bottle of wine to you. If I were on the other side of the table, I'd probably feel awkward and uncomfortable about being left out, if not offended.

If you plan to do this again, you could give your friends a heads up and say you think the meal could be an opportunity for you both to bring out special bottles of wines from both of your cellars. But honestly, I would never bring a bottle of wine to dinner that I wasn't intending to share.

—Dr. Vinny

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